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Should I continue to attend a church that I don't believe is teaching the right things even though my husband is a member there?
Dear Wondering Wife,
Though the Bible says to respect your husband (Eph 5:33), that respect is in subordination to the Lord. It is important to obey God before man (Acts 5:29). We must each work out our own salvation with fear and trembling (Php 2:12). Solomon made the mistake of honoring his wives before God, and he lost everything because of it (1 Kg 11:4). If the church you are currently attending is not faithful to God’s Word, you must choose a faithful church over your husband.
Giving excuses – is it a form of sin?
I Can Explain
Dear I Can Explain,
Excuses can be sinful if you are using them to avoid doing what you ought. For example, if you have promised to do something – you should stand by your word (Matt 5:37) and not make excuses to avoid a commitment you have made. There are sins that we commit and sins that happen when we omit doing what we ought. If you know of something that you ought to do, and you make excuses to avoid doing it, that is a sin (Jas 4:17).
My question concerns the very end of the Book of John when Jesus appeared before the disciples after rising from the dead. The disciples were fishing, and Jesus was on the shore. He told them to cast the net on the side of the boat, and they caught the fish. “Come to shore and eat,” He said, and Jesus told Peter to come with Him, and told Peter how he would die. Jesus told Peter than John will remain behind. Jesus said, "If I will that he remain till I come, what is that to you? You follow Me." My question: is John still alive today? Jesus literally said that John would remain until He comes again. Then it says in the Word that this disciple would not die. It didn't say that this disciple will not die by crucifixion or some other cause. It didn't say that this disciple would die of old age. The Word literally says, “This disciple would not die.” Is it possible that John is still alive and waiting for Christ to come again? Can you give me your take on this Scripture? Thanks.
Older Than Methuselah?
Dear Older Than Methuselah,
To understand what Jesus meant in Jhn 21:22, we need the next verse. Jesus simply told Peter, “If I will that he remain until I come, what is that to you?” There was confusion over this in the brotherhood because the word went out that John would live until the return of Christ, but Jesus was simply making the point to Peter that he didn’t need to worry about what would happen to others but to worry about himself. Jesus didn’t say he would live until the return; He simply said, “If”.
How many times did Paul visit Thessalonica?
Dear Visitor Bureau,
Paul visited Thessalonica a minimum of three times. The first time Paul visited them was on his second journey after he and Barnabas split ways (Acts 17:1). Then Paul passed through Macedonia, the region where Thessalonica was, again on his third journey (Acts 20:1). And lastly, he passed through Macedonia on his return from that third journey (Acts 20:3).
My twenty-eight-year-old daughter was murdered over six years ago, and my only daughter left was thirty-two when she committed suicide five months ago. I was saved and water baptized in 1982; over the years, I haven’t lived the spiritual life I should have. I have prayed and repented, and it seems like God has forsaken me. I don’t know what to do. How do I get back to God and let go of the past? I would appreciate if you could help me.
We cannot imagine the pain that you are in and the trials that you have seen. The loss of a child is a devastation that only those who have experienced it can truly understand. In this world of sin, unmentionable things happen. Ever since Adam and Eve sinned in the Garden, death, pain, and suffering have become a regular part of our world (Gen 2:17, Rom 5:12).
So what can we do? God doesn’t desire to forsake us… in fact, He says that if we trust in Him, we will always have Him with us. A life with God in it isn’t free from trials, but you have hope that heaven awaits. You mentioned that you haven’t lived the life you know you should have. Jas 4:8 says, “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” God is ready to forgive you and bring you comfort through your deep sorrow, but you have to reach out to Him. A large part of that is by going to services and attaching yourself to a faithful church (Heb 10:24-25). We would love to help you get in touch with a faithful congregation near you that could support you and help you draw near to God again.