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Why in Deuteronomy chapter 13 does it call the people of God to kill non-believers? It seems pretty specific, and I just wonder why it asks us to even kill our family if they should try and lead us astray.
Bound To Family
Dear Bound To Family,
Deuteronomy 13 is an Old Testament command. The laws and commandments of the Old Testament are no longer binding. When Jesus died on the cross, He blotted out the ordinances of the Old Testament that condemned us (Col 2:14). The New Testament has surpassed and replaced the Old Contract written on tablets of stone (2 Cor 3:3-8). The Old Testament was designed to lead mankind to Christ, but now that Christ has come, we are no longer under the Old Covenant (Gal 3:24-25). The Old Testament was God’s law for the Jewish nation (which included laws for how the Jewish government was supposed to punish criminals), and the New Testament is God’s law for Christians. There is so much confusion over the Old Testament and New Testament that we have a short video tutorial on the subject on our YouTube channel. The video can be found here: http://youtu.be/8kPP0G9WSyo.
I have a parenting question. My eight-year-old daughter has a friend about a year older than her who lives down the road. She and my daughter have been friends for several years, but recently, the neighbor girl berated my daughter to the point that she came home in tears. Unfortunately, this has happened before in their friendship. Also, as the neighbor girl has gotten older, she has developed a fairly bad attitude that is becoming a challenge for my daughter. The neighbor girl has a habit of doing this when she is upset about something, but she also usually comes back with an apology. This time, however, I'm leaning towards discouraging my daughter from continuing a friendship with this girl. My dilemma is: I want to teach my daughter to be forgiving, but I also don't want to put her in a situation where she will get hurt again or steer her towards a friendship with a girl who is becoming an increasingly bad influence. I also am not sure that I want to teach my daughter to continue a potentially abusive relationship simply because of an apology (I'm thinking ahead). Should I encourage my daughter to accept her friend's apology and continue the relationship on the grounds of forgiveness, which is vitally important, or should I encourage my daughter to end the friendship despite the apology because of the unhealthy nature of the relationship?
Parenting is about nurturing your children along to adulthood (Eph 6:4). Nurturing means more than just teaching one concept; it means providing them with all of the skills and strengths they will need in life. You are doing things exactly right.
It is important to teach children about forgiveness, mercy, and kindness – numerous verses teach that concept. However, that isn’t the totality of God’s teaching on relationships! If it were, Christians would be required to put up with untold abuse and accept every unhealthy influence that comes our way. Instead, God also teaches that bad relationships can corrupt us (1 Cor 15:33).
You can simultaneously teach your daughter to forgive this other girl while also teaching the benefits of setting healthy boundaries. That is a skill set she will need for the rest of her life. Forgiveness isn’t the same as trust. After all, Jesus forgave people but didn’t necessarily trust them in all circumstances (Jhn 2:24-25). You are right to seek a balance, and your daughter is blessed to have a parent that nurtures these healthy social skills in her.
My husband is a Mason and Shriner and has been for at least twelve years. During that time, I, too, became an Eastern Star but quit only after a year because it did not feel right. However, over the years, I have attended Mason functions and Potentate balls with my husband. However, the more I read the Bible, the more I know that this is idol worship. Since my husband does not write well, he asks me from time to time to type things for the Masons or Shriners. I feel uncomfortable doing this and feel that I am participating in this idol worship. I don't want my husband to feel that I don't want to help him, but I am conflicted. Please help.
Dear Uneasy Wife,
You answered your own question when you said, “I feel that I am participating in this idol worship.” God tells us that anything we can’t do in faith is sin (Rom 14:23). You are correct; the Masons add to the Scriptures (Rev 22:18-19) and mix the occult with the biblical – it is wrong.
God tells us that we ought not to intermix our lives with idolatry (2 Cor 6:16). We should flee idolatry and not help it along (1 Cor 10:14). It is good to support your husband when you can… but this isn’t one of those times.
Hey, I have a question: my girlfriend thinks she can just pray, and God will do everything for her, but I know there is a verse in the Bible that says you have to work and pray God will lead you. But where is that at?
Dear Not Lazy,
God once told Israel that He had great plans for them, plans for a future and a hope (Jer 29:11), but He also said that they wouldn’t see those plans until they sought Him with all their hearts (Jer 29:13). God molds our lives when we prepare ourselves to be used by Him. Paul once told the young preacher, Timothy, that he needed to be a vessel prepared to be used by God (2 Tim 2:21). When we live faithfully by God’s Word (Rom 10:17) and prepare our lives to be useful to Him, God guarantees that He has great things in store for us.
I have a question. I just joined a new church, but my preacher sounds gay. But he’s married to a woman with kids. But he sounds gay. What do you think?
From The Pew
Dear From The Pew,
The Bible specifically says that it is wrong for a man to purposefully act in an effeminate way (1 Cor 6:9). Men should act like men, not women. Women are meant to be feminine, and men are meant to be masculine.
Having said that, it is also important to give people the benefit of the doubt and not be too quick to judge (Matt 7:1). As you said, he is married and is living an obviously heterosexual lifestyle. We don’t know exactly what you mean by “sounds gay”, but there are certain aspects of the voice that people have no control over whatsoever. If his vocal patterns are the only thing… you might just want to cut him some slack. After all, we are all works in progress.