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Day 251 - Revelation 13

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

5 minutes a day 5 days a week All the New Testament in a year

Hold Your Tongue

Tuesday, December 15, 2015
I recently did a very strange thing; I lied to my family in order to go to a preacher's house with the rest of the congregation for an evening of fellowship and Bible study.  I felt that lying to my family (in this particular instance) was reasonable and acceptable because I was doing it to keep from hurting their feelings.  The situation, as I'm sure you can imagine, is much more complicated than I'm admitting now, but although my family is supportive of me learning about the Bible, they would (strongly) prefer I do so in my own denomination.  Was it a sin to lie to my parents in this capacity?

 

Sincerely,
Parental Pressure

Dear Parental Pressure,

The short answer is: yes.  It is a sin to lie to your parents.  Lying is always wrong (Col 3:9), and the heart of living by the Bible functions around the idea that our ethics are not dictated by the situation but by God’s unchanging word.  Lying is a creation of the devil (Jhn 8:44), and if we seek to worship God, we must do so in spirit and in truth (Jhn 4:24).

Having said that, we certainly can commiserate with you in the pressure that you have on you from outside sources.  Familial pressure is something that everyone faces from time to time.  Jesus made it clear that He would set families against each other (Lk 12:51-53).  If you follow the Bible, it will always set you at odds with certain people, even your own family.

God hates lying (Pr 6:16-17), but you don’t have to tell everyone everything about your life.  Even Jesus ignored his brothers’ request to know His comings and goings on occasion (Jhn 7:8-10).  Jesus never lied (Tit 1:2, Heb 4:15), but He did make it clear to His brothers that what He did or didn’t do was none of their business.

If you are lying to your parents to avoid telling them the truth about your devotion to Christ, then you need to make your stance clear (Matt 10:32), but if you are simply trying to study God’s Word to find the truth for yourself (and you believe the truth may very well exist outside of your family’s current religion) but simply don’t want artificial pressure on you while you do so… don’t feel obligated to tell your every move to others as you study to find the truth.

Day 250 - Revelation 12

Monday, December 14, 2015

5 minutes a day 5 days a week All the New Testament in a year

No Remorse

Monday, December 14, 2015
How do you forgive someone if they have not asked for forgiveness and/or if they act as though they are not in error?  I've heard some say you should simply be ready to forgive.  I know I should not have ill will or resentful feelings, but how can I forgive if forgiveness has not been requested?  We are only forgiven by God when we request it....

 

Sincerely,
Apology Acceptor

Dear Apology Acceptor,

Depending on the situation, you may or may not forgive the person (more on this further down), but no matter what: you can’t, absolutely CAN’T, treat the person poorly or allow bitterness to engulf you.  Whether you forgive someone or not, we are all to love even our enemies (Lk 6:27) and treat them with kindness and love.  Furthermore, bitterness of heart is a disease that is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to suffer (Heb 12:15).

With that said, here are some things to consider with forgiveness.  You have to forgive all christians (Matt 18:35).  If they are good enough for God to forgive, they are good enough for you to forgive.  If the person is not a christian, you may find that they are purposefully continuing to harm you and abuse you.  If this is the case, it is fair to say that you do not need to forgive them, but you do still need to love them.  God is willing to forgive when we repent, but ready to forgive is different than actually forgiving (Ps 86:5).  Another factor to consider is that Jesus asked God to forgive people who were crucifying Him.  “Forgive them for they know not what they do”(Lk 23:34) is a very powerful statement.  Jesus made it clear that oftentimes people do the wrong thing out of ignorance.  If they had only known, they would have acted differently.  It is always a good idea to give people the benefit of the doubt.   If in doubt, forgiveness is always a better option.

A Date With Disaster

Friday, December 11, 2015
A friend that I have known for six years has feelings for me, but she has a bad habit of going to bars and drinking.  She claims to want a christian boyfriend, yet she is not willing to give up her current ways even after I have explained, using the Bible, why being a christian involves change.

After counseling from a church member, prayer, and reading the scriptures of King Solomon in the Bible, his folly revealed to me that I cannot be with her in a pure christian relationship.

After not reciprocating her emotions, she decided to move on and now has a boyfriend that goes to my church at home.  Is this a weaker christian falling for simply looks, or am I wrong with the message I thought the Holy Spirit revealed to me?

Sincerely,
Moral Moorings

Dear Moral Moorings,

You made the right choice, but without knowing the specifics of the new relationship she is in, we wouldn’t be quick to judge the new guy.  The Bible makes it clear that we must put our morals before anything else (Acts 5:29).  It is also clear that bad companions will corrupt good morals (1 Cor 15:33).  Furthermore, since christians should only date for the purpose of trying to find a future mate… immoral boyfriends/girlfriends are a bad decision.  Christians should only seek to marry others who are also “in the Lord” (1 Cor 7:39).

You are properly seeing the Scriptures (which is how the Holy Spirit reveals His will to us).  Solomon was destroyed by his ungodly wives (1 Kgs 11:4), a fate that you are wise to avoid.  Circumstances may have changed, or this woman’s character might have altered now that she is dating this other man, or he may simply have not planted his feet firmly enough to stand by his God… only God knows the specifics.  Regardless, you made the right and Biblical choice to place God before this woman.

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