Ask Your Preacher
I have a wife who is faithful to me. She does not know about my secret relationship. I also have a girlfriend who loves me, and I love her (she knows my situation). She cannot keep going on like this in a part-time relationship. Frankly, neither can I. I have to make a decision to be with one or the other. We (girlfriend and I) want to live right before God. Can I leave my faithful wife, choose my girlfriend, and still live right before the Lord? What would we gain? What would we lose? What must we do to make it right before God?
Got To Choose
Dear Got To Choose,
No, unequivocally no! You cannot leave your wife to start a new life with your girlfriend. Marriage was designed by God to be monogamous, and the marriage bed should be undefiled (Gen 2:24, Heb 13:4). What you are doing is wrong. You are fornicating, defiling your marriage, and destroying this other woman’s life as well.
The only faithful way out of this sin is to break off your relationship with your mistress, flee fornication (1 Cor 6:18), and start being faithful to your already faithful wife.
[This question is in response to “Waiting Around”]
Can you explain exactly what "our spirit" is (as you previously answered another inquirer regarding the spirit of a Christian separating from the body and going to Paradise). Is the spirit our conscience?
Dear Jiminy Cricket,
Your spirit is who you really are. We are made in God’s image (Gen 1:27) – it is our spirit that is crafted in His image, not our bodies. Jhn 4:24 says that God is spiritual, not physical. God existed long before the physical world ever did (Gen 1:1). Our spirits are fashioned after our Heavenly Father, and long after our bodies decay, our spirits will live on.
Your spirit is that part of you that truly is you. It is more than your conscience; it is your soul – your very essence. Your body is just a vessel to contain your spirit until the day you go to meet your God (Jas 2:26).
I have had an account on Facebook for a few months now. I have friends that are members of different denominations. Many times, I see them on Sunday or Wednesday make comments on "saving" someone or give a preview of a lesson they are going to preach, and I have even witnessed one typing the "sinner’s prayer" for someone to read to obtain salvation. We both know salvation is not obtained by prayer. My question is: should I just not take part in those conversations, so I don't start a cyber war because their friends are the ones agreeing with them… or should I speak up and proclaim the truth? Face-to-face, I would correct them using Scripture, but it's easy to scroll on by when on Facebook. What would you do?
In every area of life, when to speak up and when to remain silent is a skill that takes time and wisdom to acquire. The Bible teaches us to be brave and courageous with God’s truth (Lk 12:3-4, 2 Tim 1:7), but it also teaches us to not waste time on those who aren’t interested (Matt 7:6).
If the situation seems appropriate, feel free to make a comment on Facebook that there is another side to the story when it comes to the plan of salvation… but don’t feel guilty if it is clear they aren’t looking for input. You can always use the information in the public Facebook post as a catalyst for a private conversation… which might be a better setting.
I remember you said one time some of you guys could read Koine Greek. I have heard it said that Greek is almost never translated into English correctly. They may take two Greek words with two meanings and put them into one English word. So can you read the Textus Receptus and, let’s say, Westcott Hort Greek text? If so, how can someone like me who can’t read Koine Greek be able to look up the Greek words? For example, if I am reading the Bible and want to look up the word ‘blood’ in the Greek and find the meaning, how can I?
Whoever told you that Greek is never translated into English correctly… is incorrect. There are many wonderful English word-for-word translations of the Bible. The King James, New King James, American Standard, New American Standard, and English Standard versions are all excellent. Thousands of Greek scholars have poured over those translations to make sure that they are accurate renderings of the Greek language. Sometimes translations will take two words from the first language and translate them into one in the second – they also will do the opposite. This is part of accurate translating; each language has varying words with varying colors and definitions; the translator’s job is to accurately convey one language into another, and sometimes, it takes more or less words to do that.
If you want to be able to look up Greek definitions yourself, the easiest way is to use a Strong’s numbered Bible and a Strong’s numbered Bible dictionary. Strong’s numbering assigns a number for each Greek word in the Bible, so you can look up definitions without actually knowing the words. Just find the number in the Bible, and then look up the definition using the same number. A word of caution, Strong’s numbers only provide definitions; they don’t cover the grammatical elements of the Greek language.
Exactly what is the difference between our souls and our spirit?
The words ‘soul’ and ‘spirit’ are used interchangeably in almost every circumstance. There is only one verse that points to the fact that there is a difference between your soul and your spirit. In Heb 4:12, it says that the Bible can pierce even to the divide between soul and spirit. Apparently, there is a difference between your spirit and your soul… but we have absolutely no idea what that difference is. As we said, in every other verse, those two terms are used as synonyms. We could theorize for hours on the topic, but anything we said would simply be conjecture. As far as we can tell from Scripture, both terms are used to talk about that ungraspable spark of life (where? – we have no idea) in every human that exists even after death.