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I'm confused. You say when God kills innocent children that it is a blessing to them. I want my children to go to heaven. One way to guarantee that would be to kill them. I guess I could repent of that sin, quit having children, and live a life worthy of heaven from that point on and see them again one day? I don't get it.
Dear Morbid Mom,
You are referring to a comment we made in the article “Flood For Thought”, and in the context, we specifically said that there is a difference between God ending a life and murder. Your “plan” (we know it was hypothetical) to kill your children and later repent wouldn’t work because of one verse – Galatians 6:7. Gal 6:7 says that God cannot be mocked; there are no loopholes with our Creator. God isn’t like the IRS; we can’t just tweak the numbers and skirt justice. If you purposefully killed your children in order to fast track them to heaven in the hopes of eventually meeting up with them… God wouldn’t be tricked by your plan.
I don’t get it. So much of the Bible makes no sense to me. For example, the Flood… the Bible said God flooded the world but saved Noah and Noah's family only. The Bible says the reason this was done was because God saw too much wickedness in the world. But I just can’t imagine every child or baby living then in the world being wicked, but the Bible says God killed them all. But in another verse, I remember hearing it said children and babies are not accountable until, like, a certain age… maybe puberty? So all those kids and babies that were drowned in the flood were innocent, yet killed anyway. It makes no sense at all to me.
Too Tragic For Thought
Dear Too Tragic For Thought,
The Flood was a blessing to Noah and his family because they were saved from the sinful influences of that ever-violent generation (1 Pet 3:20)… but it was also a blessing to those innocent children. You are right; all children are born sinless, and they aren’t accountable for sin until they are old enough to be responsible for their own behavior. All children go to heaven. Read “What About The Children?” for further details on the fate of the young.
It is important to realize that when God ends a life, it is not the same as when another human snuffs a life out. God knows that when a child dies, it isn’t the end of their life but the beginning of a new one. When God ends a life, He also has a new life to offer them. All the innocent children that died in the Flood had no chance to grow up faithfully and turn to God because the generation was so wicked that there was no hope for their future. God redeemed those children from such a horrific fate, and He started the world anew with righteous Noah and his family.
Why do many preachers preach, and they say that when a son or daughter have drifted to the wrong path (meaning the worldly life), it is the parents’ fault? Yet, you see that in there own household, they have youth who aren't serving God and are roaming the world... why do many preachers say that?
Double-Checking Double Standards
Dear Double-Checking Double Standards,
We don’t pretend to represent all preachers; we can only tell you what the Bible says on the subject. When we preach on the topic of raising children, we talk about the fact that parents have a huge influence on the future of their children. God tells us that we should “train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old they will not depart from it” (Pr 22:6). That is one of many verses that address a parent’s responsibility to instill the truth in their children. When kids grow up, they still have the freedom to choose right and wrong for themselves, but how their parents raise them sets them up for failure or success.
The fact that we preach on the responsibilities of parents doesn’t mean that all preachers are perfect parents – in fact, it is quite the opposite. We are always preaching Bible concepts that we personally fail at. Preachers fall short just like everyone else (Rom 3:23). We don’t preach on moral issues because we are perfect men; we preach on these issues because God has given us His Word to guide us (Ps 119:105). The message is perfect, not the messengers.
Sometimes I feel like the harder I try to keep my thoughts and my actions pure, the harder the devil works to try to put road blocks in the way. I was raised in a christian home in which sex or any idea related to the naked human body was not discussed. I have tried to do a better job of preparing my children for what they will be faced with as adults, but I really don't want to expose them to too much. I guess that I'm finding that the relationship between a man and a woman doesn't seem to be a sacred relationship anymore. Even some of my best "christian" friends make jokes or comments that seem offensive to me even around my children. I guess my question: am I too uptight about this type of open discussion because of my upbringing, or is this type of banter something that we as christians should steer clear of?
Dear Mother Hoverer,
You aren’t crazy; the world and culture that we live in doesn’t treat the male and female relationship with respect, and that culture has bled into the church. God warns christians against any sort of lewd jokes, crass language, or irreverent speech (Eph 4:29, Tit 2:7-8). Heb 13:4 says that we should all hold the marriage relationship in a place of honor. If anything that we say or do treats marriage as crass, common, or cheap – that is wrong. We can’t tell you exactly where the line is between humorous banter and crass joking… but it is there, and we need to avoid that line.
The second part of your question deals with raising children. You are wise to not expose your children to too much too quickly. God tells us to train up our children in the way they should go (Pr 22:6). Whenever you train someone, you start small and slowly introduce them to more complex issues as they learn. That is how God would have us treat children – someday they will have to face all of these issues themselves, but until they are ready, parents are to be the filter through which they are introduced to the ethics and issues of life.
Hello. I've prayed to God on this subject many times, but I do not seem to get a clear answer either way. I'm hoping you can help. What do you think is God's view on embryo adoption? Many infertile couples undergo IVF treatments, and as a result, many surplus embryos are left over. These are either frozen indefinitely, destroyed, or used for scientific research.
We are unable to have children of our own and would dearly love to adopt one of these embryos which would otherwise never be given the chance of life.
Do you think it is morally wrong to bring a child into the world this way?
Surely it's better for them to have a life and be loved and cherished rather than just destroyed. Okay, we may not be the biological parents, but we would love them with the same intensity. I know it's an unusual question, but I'd appreciate any guidance on this matter.
Dear Maternal Instinct,
What a wonderful heart for children that you and your husband have! Very few people realize that there are tens of thousands of fertilized embryos that exist in America and are being stored because of in-vitro fertilization procedures. This poses a huge ethical dilemma. Since the Bible never tells us when a human life begins, it is impossible to simply treat fertilized embryos as waste. As far as we know, life begins at conception (this is the same argument used against abortion – read “A Voice For The Voiceless” for further details), and that would include these embryos. So what is to be done? Embryo adoption is becoming an increasingly popular option for couples that are seeking to have children and also feel morally compelled to save these children. Adoption is a wonderful option.
The Bible is very pro-adoption. In fact, the greatest adoption story in history is the church. Jesus died, so God could adopt us as His children (Eph 1:4-5, Rom 8:15). What a wonderful legacy of love that you can provide your children with. Your children will always know that they were loved from the earliest stages of life and that their parents chose life.