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What do you do when your teen son tell you that he is the devil?
Dear Dodging Pitchforks,
Start praying he is wrong. Of course, it is impossible for him to actually be the devil, but when people live sinful lives, they become children of the devil (Acts 13:10, 1 Jn 3:8). The devil has only one tool at his disposal – lies (Jhn 8:44). The greatest antidote to lies is truth.
Ask your son to reason with you and explain why he thinks he is the devil. God is a big fan of calm, rational discourse (Isa 1:18). We have no idea how likely it is for you to get your son to do this… but it never hurts to try. Many times when people have to explain their beliefs, the nuttiness of their position becomes apparent to even them. Darkness hates being brought to light (Jhn 3:20). Ask your son to explain why he believes what he does; chances are, you won’t have to prove him wrong… he’ll do that himself.
Well, the last couple of days have really been tough...my girlfriend and I thought we conceived a baby (we are not married, and I know that is a sin), but I asked for forgiveness... but then it all fell apart. I loved her and trusted her... she ended up telling me there was a possibility that the baby might not be mine; she left me because it was hard to be with me after she told me, and I admit it was hard, but I was willing to forgive and let go, but she left, and now she has told me that the doctors told her she probably lost the child. I don’t know if the kid was mine, but I feel like it was. I had dreams about it and saw myself with a lil’ boy I had never seen before. I was so happy to find out I was going to be a daddy and was going to raise him right by God. I’m not sure if it’s mine or if she miscarried. I just want advice on why things like this happen. I tried my hardest to make it work, and I wanted to be happy, but it all fell apart. I’m twenty years old, and this is one of the hardest, if not the hardest, things I’ve ever dealt with. I lost the love of my life and my possible child, plus she had a daughter, and she would call me “Dad”, so it’s like I lost two children. Please, I need the Lord’s Word to get through this, so please help!
You are experiencing the pain of sin in a very real and personal way. God does offer forgiveness if we place our faith in Him (read “What Must I Do To Be Saved” for more details), but that forgiveness doesn’t remove the consequences of sin. David sinned when he committed adultery with Bathsheba (2 Sam 11:2-4); God forgave David of the sin when David repented (2 Sam 12:13), but David’s child still died as a consequence of that sin (2 Sam 12:14). Sin has both spiritual and physical consequences. The spiritual consequence of sin is eternal death unless we are forgiven in Christ (Rom 6:23). The physical consequences of sin still remain after forgiveness. God says that we reap what we sow (Gal 6:7). When we behave immorally toward a woman, lose our temper, mistreat others, are bad examples for our children, etc. – there are consequences to those choices. God wants you to have a happy and healthy life here on this planet. The only way to do that is to trust His Word that teaches us everything about life (2 Pet 1:3). We are so sorry that your road has been so difficult as of late; hopefully, this will become an opportunity for you to start with a new commitment to live as God intends. If you would like help finding a faithful congregation in your area (not all churches are equal) to help you on that journey, we would be happy assist you in locating one. Simply e-mail us at email@example.com.
Why would God allow the torture of innocent children?
This world is full of all sorts of disease, pain, violence, and strife – but God didn’t cause those things; sin did. All bad things are a result of sin. When God made the world, He placed mankind in the Garden of Eden and gave us a joyously blissful existence in that paradise. Who caused the pain? We did. It is sin that has brought all of the death, disease, decay, pain, suffering, troubles, and heartaches into our world. We all, in varying degrees, are reaping the benefits of a world with sin in it. Sickness is a consequence of Adam and Eve’s sin in the Garden of Eden. One of the curses of their sin was that we all must face our own mortality – life is finite. Sickness, disease, and pain are a part of the human existence.
Sadly, this is true even for our children. When God gave us freewill, He gave us the right to cause problems for ourselves and others, and if He simply removed all the consequences for our actions, He would be removing our freedoms as well. The flip-side to this is that all children go to heaven, so after a child dies, God immediately comforts them on the other side. God gives mankind the freedom to make decisions, but He also has the wisdom to know how those choices will affect the future (Job 12:13). God planned before the foundation of the world to save us by sending His own Son to die (Eph. 1:3-4). Even though He isn’t responsible for our choices, God sent the perfect cure. This world isn’t fair – if it were, it would be heaven. Instead, we live in a fallen world where man has been exiled from paradise. This world is not our home; Christians await a better world where the most innocent don’t face such things. (Heb 11:16).
Yes, I am a christian and have given my life to Christ. I try to live a good christian life, but when I was very young, I had an abortion. I was pushed into it by everyone that I knew, including my parents and my boyfriend. My question is this... is one sin worse than others? I have asked the Lord to forgive me, and I was and still am very sincere. I believe that my sins have been forgiven, but lately I am reading things about abortion that are upsetting to me. Please help.
All sins are equal, but some sins have worse consequences than others. In this life a “little white lie” may not cause you much trouble, but committing adultery will devastate your life. However, in the eyes of God, all sin is deserving of death (Rom 6:23). That “little white lie” will send you to hell just as much as the adultery would. Abortion is such a heinous sin because of how deeply it affects the life and emotional state of the mother, the family, and ultimately, because it destroys a child’s life… but abortion can be forgiven through the blood of Christ. The apostle Paul murdered christians (Acts 26:10), but Christ saved him (1 Tim 1:15). The person that had an abortion is the old you… in Christ, you are a new person, and the old deeds have passed away (2 Cor 5:17). Move forward in life with peace of mind knowing you will be reunited with your child in heaven.
I am visiting family, and my sister-in-law invited an older child over to play with my daughter. This child’s parents must use the phrase, "Oh, my God" often because the child said it a couple times. My daughter has been taught not to say this, and at breakfast, she said, “(child’s name omitted) is using bad words.”
My reactionary reply was, "(child’s name omitted) is a bad-bad." This made for an awkward moment with this boy sitting at the breakfast table with his aunt & uncle close by who were watching him for the day.
I missed a moment to teach why we do not say, "Oh, my God" to the child and his relatives. However, I'm not sure I would have explained it sufficiently if I would have tried.
Where in the Bible does it state using this phrase flippantly is wrong?
Dear Catch Phrase,
In the Old Testament, it says to “not take the Lord’s name in vain” (Ex 20:7); it is the third commandment. In the New Testament, we are told to “let not the name of God and the doctrine be blasphemed” (1 Tim 6:1). The New Testament also says to treat God with reverence (Heb 12:28). When we have an attitude of reverence towards God, we won’t use His name as a cuss word. You are doing well to teach your child to hold God’s name in reverence and honor. You’ve been doing the right thing… the verses back you up.