Ask Your Preacher
If you believe in God and commit suicide, would you go to hell?
Dear Damage Calculator,
Suicide is murder, self-murder, and is therefore very clearly a sin (Rev 21:8). The only difference between suicide and murdering someone else is that you don’t get a chance to repent after suicide. Suicide is a final decision and leaves no room for correction or for asking forgiveness. It is a willful act of disobedience against God without opportunity for repentance. The final judgment belongs to God (Heb 12:23), but we certainly wouldn’t want to face that judgment with our own blood on our hands.
What should I do to get over lost love?
It is always difficult when a romantic relationship ends, but God promises that if you serve Him, all things will work together for good in your life (Rom 8:28). God tells us to not rush love and romantic relationships (Songs 8:4). If you work on becoming the kind of person you ought to be, the Lord will bless you. Make a decision to become a person prepared to serve God in whatever capacity He sees fit (2 Tim 2:21). When you allow Christ to live in you, life turns out right (Gal 2:20).
Is it okay to take anti-depressants?
Dear Feeling Low,
God condones taking medication for our health problems. Paul told Timothy to take some wine for his stomach (1 Tim 5:23). The sick were told to have the elders pray over them and anoint them with oil – oil was used as a medicine (Jas 5:14).
We know that medicine is perfectly appropriate when you are sick. Though some feel uncomfortable using anti-depressants (and you should never do anything that goes against your conscience – 1 Tim 1:5), the argument can be made that anti-depressant medication is just like using aspirin or any other medical technique to improve human health and body function. Good brethren disagree on this issue, and it is important to consider the issue carefully for yourself and make a prayerful decision.
I am going through a mental breakdown: I am talking to myself, I am hearing voices, and now I am seeing things in the sky (like little orbs floating telling me to do stuff)! What should I do?
Take a deep breath and seek help - a faithful church and a good physician are a good place to start. God tells us that two are better than one (Eccl 4:9) and that we need to seek help when things get difficult (Pr 15:22). When burdens and trials increase in our lives, we need to turn to God and His people. We are so sorry for the immense turmoil you are going through. Others have faced this same level of strain that begins to play tricks on your mind. The key is to lean upon a faithful church that can help you through this. Please e-mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org, so we can help you find a faithful congregation to provide you with relief and the hope in God that will anchor you through the trials of life (Heb 6:19).
How do I let go of guilty feelings that haunt me all the time for any and all wrong I've done throughout my life, regardless of how wrong the act. I've repented and asked forgiveness and honestly feel remorse. I know Jesus forgives and forgets, but how do I forget? It keeps me from feeling like I bettered myself by doing right, and I am not worthy of God's blessings. I feel He should bless others who are more worthy.
Please guide me in the right direction to accept my forgiveness from our Savior.
What you are asking is one of the most difficult things in life – forgiving yourself. Like all things, God is better at forgiveness than we are. Many people hold on to the guilt and shame of sin far too keenly. God tells us that there are several things to remember:
- Even if your heart condemns you, God keeps His promises. On the Judgment Day, we will be judged by God’s standards, not whether or not we feel worthy (1 Jn 3:20).
- We can reassure our own hearts that we have been forgiven when we study and live by the truth of the Bible (1 Jn 3:18-20). The more we immerse ourselves in God’s teachings, the quicker we begin to realize that forgiveness isn’t about being worthy… but about having faith in the mercy of God.
- Another way to look at your problem is to remember that saying, “I can’t believe God will forgive me” is the same as saying, “I don’t believe that Jesus’ sacrifice was enough”. That may sound harsh, but our forgiveness is based upon Jesus’ blood (Col 2:14). It is an act of faith in Jesus to accept our own forgiveness.
All in all, self-forgiveness takes time… just like all areas of growth.