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My daughter thinks it's okay for women to love women in a way that men and women are supposed to be in a relationship. She tells me, “God is love,” and that's what her relationship is, and she also believes that I am judging her. I know that the devil has blinded her, and my heart aches because I raised my children in church, and I pray for her deliverance. What do I do?
Sick Over This
Dear Sick Over This,
If you are looking for verses to show your daughter on the subject of homosexuality, the clearest two in the New Testament are Rom 1:26-27 and Jude 1:7. However, as you implied, the problem is more than just finding the verses; it is how to act toward a child that has chosen a sinful lifestyle.
There may not be any greater pain on this planet than the pain a parent feels on behalf of their children. Whether your children have hurt you or you are watching your children hurt, it is a devastating heaviness upon your soul (Pr 10:1).
All you can ever do for your grown children is be a good example, pray for their souls, and stand firm in the truth. Be that light of Christ that they need to see (Matt 5:14). Hate the sin, but love them. Sin causes pain in people’s lives, and hopefully, when that pain gets deep enough – they will choose to look to your example and the Lord’s Will for answers.
My wife says she won't be submissive; she says she never has and never will, and if that’s the way I think, maybe we should end our marriage. She also says that submission was only a thing of that time period. I want to live the best christian life that I can; what should I say or do?
Dear Too Aggressive,
The Bible never commands a husband to make his wife submit. God commands husbands to love their wives and wives to submit to their husbands (Eph 5:24-25). You cannot force your wife to submit to you, nor is it your job to do that. She will answer to God for the choices she makes in your marriage, and you will answer to God for the choices you make.
Love your wife and care for her as you do your own body (Eph 5:28). Don't be embittered against her (Col 3:19). These are the commands to a husband. When you live a godly life and follow your responsibilities, you show her that there is another way to live. When a husband lives up to his biblical responsibilities, he becomes a leader in his home. When he does that, his wife has a leader worth following.
I’ve been just wondering about Deut 22:5; would you explain, please? Is it okay to wear trousers because I’m just afraid; I don’t want to live a God-fearing life while wearing trousers only to be shunned out of heaven when time comes because I did not heed His warning on it, or does Deut 22:5 have a different meaning? Thank you and God bless.
Dear Suited Up,
Deut 22:5 teaches that a woman is not supposed to dress like a man, and a man is not supposed to dress like a woman. Cross-dressing is a sin because men are not to behave effeminately (1 Cor 6:9), and similarly, women are not to behave in a masculine way. Deut 22:5 is a generic teaching on the subject of men and women’s clothing that teaches a principle.
In today’s society, women wear pants all the time that are women’s pants. They are designed for women, look like a woman should wear them, and would look decidedly inappropriate for a man to wear! If a woman is wearing trousers that are feminine, she is fine. However, if a man or a woman begins to dress in a way that clearly is against the natural design the Lord intended, that is a sin.
Did God make mistakes when he made homosexuals? Why did Jesus not rebuke homosexuals?
Looking For Answers
Dear Looking For Answers,
We’ll answer your second question first. Jesus did rebuke homosexuality, but He didn’t do it specifically. Jesus answered the question of homosexuality when He taught on marriage. Jesus said that marriage was intended between a man and a woman (Matt 19:4-5). Any sexual activity outside of God’s plan for marriage is fornication. Homosexual behavior, pre-marital sex, adultery, etc. are all sinful and Jesus condemned them all when He taught the right way for men and women to behave.
Now let’s address the issue of people being made homosexual. God doesn’t force anyone to act upon same-sex attractions, just like God doesn’t force an alcoholic to the bottle or a wrathful husband to strike his wife. How we act is a choice, not a genetic equation. There is a lot of debate over why some people have same-sex attractions, but at the end of the day, those temptations need to be mastered. When Cain was angry, God told Cain to rule over sin or it would devour him (Gen 4:7). Same-sex attractions are a temptation that stems from within a person, just like anger, unhealthy opposite-sex attractions, and a thousand other temptations (Jas 1:13-14). The key is that there is always a way of escape from those unhealthy desires (1 Cor 10:13). God didn’t make a mistake when creating us; it is when we turn from the path He has designed for us and follow our own desires (which are often unhealthy) that we sin (Jer 10:23).
In the news, a boy brought a gun to school and shot his classmate. The teacher asked him why he did it, and he said his classmate acted “too girly”. Do you think that the christian church is perplexing young minds and making them do silly things like this? Also, how should we teach a child about diversity and homosexuals?
The church needs to teach what the Bible says, and the Bible says that homosexuality is wrong (Rom 1:26-27). Is it right to shoot people because you disagree with them? Absolutely not. Vengeance, judgment, life, and death belong to God – not us (Rom 12:19, 1 Pet 4:4-5). The Bible doesn't teach people to hate. There are people who try and wield the Bible as a book of hatred, but when you read the Book yourself, it teaches forgiveness for sins, the love of God, and hope for the repentant sinner – this includes repentant homosexuals.
We should teach our children what the Bible says about men and women. God designed marriage and sexual relations to be between one man and one woman (Gen 2:24, 1 Cor 7:1-2). Homosexuality is a sin, but it is a sin that can be forgiven like any other.