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What does the Bible say about abortion? Is it a forgivable sin? What if the doctor said, "It was not growing anyway." I was told that but don't know if it was true or if I was told that because I was extremely upset.
All sins are equal, but some sins have worse consequences than others. In this life, a “little white lie” may not cause you much trouble, but committing adultery will devastate your life. However, in the eyes of God, all sin is deserving of death (Rom 6:23). That “little white lie” will send you to hell just as much as the adultery would. Abortion is such a heinous sin because of how deeply it affects the life and emotional state of the mother and the family and because it destroys a child’s life… but abortion can be forgiven through the blood of Christ. The apostle Paul murdered christians (Acts 26:10), but Christ saved him (1 Tim 1:15). In Christ, you are a new person, and the old deeds have passed away (2 Cor 5:17).
Read “Five Steps To Salvation” to see what it takes to become a christian. You can be forgiven, and you can move forward in life with the peace of mind from knowing you will be reunited with your child in heaven. If you would like help finding a faithful congregation (not all churches are faithful) that can help you move forward, please feel free to e-mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
(This question is a follow-up to “Providing For Your Own”)
If a christian adopts a child, and many years later the biological parents of the child come to believe (based upon 1 Tim. 5:8) that they have a responsibility to be raising the child – what should the christian do?
Does God no longer hold them to be responsible for parenting the child?
Do I have the right to keep the child and keep them from doing what they believe is their responsibility to the child and to God? This is a serious matter. Please advise.
Dear Family Ties,
Once someone makes a vow, they are bound by it even if they later regret making it. When a child is adopted, the adoptive family has promised to take that child and make them part of their family – that is exactly why those parents are required to fulfill all biblical responsibilities of parenting. In like manner, when someone terminates their parental rights, they also become bound by their word, even if they later regret their decision.
People often make promises and decisions that they later regret and cannot change. When Esau gave up his birthright for a bowl of stew, he later regretted the decision but couldn’t change it (Heb 12:16-17). Esau gave it up, and that was that. He had to live with the consequences.
The nation of Israel did the same thing when they made a truce with the Gibeonites. The Gibeonites tricked Israel into making a pact with them even though God had warned Israel that this would cause them trouble. Israel murmured about the vow, but they were bound by it (Josh 9:18-20). We are bound by our word even if later we realize we should have done differently.
An adoptive family has total rights to keep the child, and the birthparents have zero rights to take them back. Both have made a vow and are bound by them.
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(This question is in response to “Embryo Adoption”)
You stated that, "The Bible is very pro-adoption."
Does the Bible support adopting a child that has living biological parents (those that have offered the child for adoption)?
1 Tim 5:8 demonstrates the responsibility parents have to take care of their own children, and adopting these children could place a legal barrier between those parents and their responsibility to take care of their offspring. Please advise.
Dear Family Ties,
There are two sides to an adoption story, the birthparents whose rights are terminated (either voluntarily, involuntarily, or through death) and the adoptive parents that take the child as their own. We have to deal with both groups separately.
First let’s deal with the adoptive parents. The Bible teaches that when christians are adopted by God, they receive full rights as His children (Rom 8:15-17). Using this principle, when a family adopts a child, they become responsible for all of that child’s needs just as if the child was biologically born to them. Therefore, the commands given to parents and children in places like 1 Tim 5:8 and Eph 6:1-4 would apply just as firmly to an adoption situation.
Now, let’s address what the Bible says about birthparents who place their biological children for adoption. The Bible makes it clear that parents do have a responsibility for their children, and when we said that the Bible is “pro-adoption”, we were saying that the Bible condones adopting children who are in need of families. We were not saying that the Bible condones someone turning their back on their parental responsibilities. The Bible has a lot to say about caring for our children, and in most circumstances, it would be the wrong thing for a christian to place their child for adoption. The only times in the entire Bible that we ever read of faithful people doing this is when Hannah gave Samuel to be raised by the priest Eli (1 Sam 1:24-28) and when Moses’ parents sent him down the river to save his life (Ex 2:3)… and it is safe to say that both circumstances were extraordinary.
What’s your view on abortion? And what stance should the church take?
Looking For Answers
Dear Looking For Answers,
Abortion is a sin, and churches that support abortion are wrong. Children are already alive in the womb. John the Baptist leapt in his mother’s womb (Lk 1:41). God specifically said that John was a child dedicated to Him from before birth (Lk. 1:15). Ps 139:13-16 makes a clear statement about life within the womb of a mother. Unborn children are credited as living, feeling humans, and therefore, deserve just as much protection as any other human life. The abortion movement is a movement that seeks to deny rights to a silent and innocent segment of human society. Abortion is murder (1 Pet. 4:15). Any preacher or religious leader that promotes abortion is promoting murder.
Hello. I've prayed to God on this subject many times, but I do not seem to get a clear answer either way. I'm hoping you can help. What do you think is God's view on embryo adoption? Many infertile couples undergo IVF treatments, and as a result, many surplus embryos are left over. These are either frozen indefinitely, destroyed, or used for scientific research.
We are unable to have children of our own and would dearly love to adopt one of these embryos which would otherwise never be given the chance of life.
Do you think it is morally wrong to bring a child into the world this way?
Surely it's better for them to have a life and be loved and cherished rather than just destroyed. Okay, we may not be the biological parents, but we would love them with the same intensity. I know it's an unusual question, but I'd appreciate any guidance on this matter.
Dear Maternal Instinct,
What a wonderful heart for children that you and your husband have! Very few people realize that there are tens of thousands of fertilized embryos that exist in America and are being stored because of in-vitro fertilization procedures. This poses a huge ethical dilemma. Since the Bible never tells us when a human life begins, it is impossible to simply treat fertilized embryos as waste. As far as we know, life begins at conception (this is the same argument used against abortion – read “A Voice For The Voiceless” for further details), and that would include these embryos. So what is to be done? Embryo adoption is becoming an increasingly popular option for couples that are seeking to have children and also feel morally compelled to save these children. Adoption is a wonderful option.
The Bible is very pro-adoption. In fact, the greatest adoption story in history is the church. Jesus died, so God could adopt us as His children (Eph 1:4-5, Rom 8:15). What a wonderful legacy of love that you can provide your children with. Your children will always know that they were loved from the earliest stages of life and that their parents chose life.