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What can a physically abusive man do to stop his ways? He loves Christ, but he gets mad and flips out; then he repents over and over.
Hoping To Help Him
Dear Hoping To Help Him,
He can stop his ways whenever it is important to him. Contrary to what he says, this abusive man isn’t out of control – he can stop being abusive whenever he wants to. In fact, abusive spouses are in complete control of their behavior. Saying they “lose control” is just an excuse to continue sinful behavior. Consider that:
- Abusers pick and choose whom they want to abuse. Abusers don’t assault or threaten everyone in their lives, only the ones they claim to love and care about. Abusers have enough self-control to safely interact with employers, grocery clerks, and a thousand other people.
- Abusers carefully choose when and where to abuse. Abusive spouses act appropriately in public but unleash their rage in private. They have enough self-control to hide their behavior from society.
- Abusers are able to stop when it benefits them (for example: when the police show up, their boss calls, etc.).
- Worst of all, the most violent of domestic abusers are able to show enough control to aim their blows where they will be hidden from the public. Many physically abusive adults specifically pick to leave marks only in places that won’t show.
In short, domestic violence isn’t uncontrollable – it is a choice. All sin is something we have a say in, and it is our decision whether or not to let it be our master (Gen 4:7). If you are in an abusive relationship, do not accept the lie that they can’t control their behavior. Physical abuse is inexcusable. God says that we should love our children (Tit 2:4) and love our spouses (Eph 5:28). Domestic violence is the exact opposite of that command.
In the Old Testament, why did God order holy garments to be made for Aaron and his sons when they were given the office of priest?
Exodus 28:2-3 “And thou shalt make holy garments for Aaron thy brother for glory and for beauty. And thou shalt speak unto all that are wise-hearted, whom I have filled with the spirit of wisdom, that they may make Aaron's garments to consecrate him, that he may minister unto Me in the priest's office.”
Why did God want them to have such extravagant garments? Were they to be held in high regard and given honor by the Jewish people?
Hemming And Hawing
Dear Hemming and Hawing,
The priesthood was to be held in high regard because, as Ex 28:3 says, they were ministering to God. The priesthood had a holy job; they were the servants of Jehovah, and that set them apart (Ex 19:22). Their clothing was to reflect that holiness (Ex 40:13). The priests weren’t special because of their own worth, but because of their proximity to God. Today, the church is called “the royal priesthood” (1 Pet 2:9). The church is special because of its proximity to and blessing from God. Christians are sinners, too (Rom 3:23), but we have been made holy by the cleansing blood of Christ (Rev 1:5). We are special because our Savior is special.
I am not sure I have a full understanding of chapter 35 and 36 of Numbers: explain both those chapters to me. Thank you.
Numbers 35 deals with the distribution of land to the Levites. When Israel conquered the land of Canaan, the tribe of Levi (also known as the Levites) was not given large chunks of land like the other tribes. Instead, they were given cities scattered throughout the other tribes. Numbers 35 outlines exactly where those cities would be and how the land surrounding those cities was to be surveyed. Numbers 35 also deals with the cities of refuge (Num 35:10-11). Cities of refuge were places where someone could flee to for safety if they had accidently killed someone.
Numbers 36 addresses a separate issue concerning distribution of land – inheritance. Typically, land was passed down through a family from father to son, but in some instances, if a man had only daughters, special exceptions needed to be made, so the land could remain in the family. Numbers 36 outlines specifically how inheritances should be dealt with in such cases.
Is God real?
Your question is one of the fundamental questions of life: “Does God Exist?” It is important that everyone asks this question at some point in their life; it is a basic question that is worthy of an honest answer.
We will try to give you some key evidence that there is a Creator, but we will also point you in the direction of some resources that may help you in your quest for answers. So here we go:
- Look at a watch and ask yourself the question, “Is this designed?” Of course, a watch is designed – just like a house, a car, a camera, and other modern technological marvels. You know they are designed because they are complex, they have purpose, and they are organized in a meaningful way. Now look at your eye, your hand, even a single follicle of hair. Are they designed? They are infinitely more complex than a watch. They have very distinct purposes, and they are all organized in a meaningful way. You were designed by God; you have a Designer. If you believe in watchmakers, you can believe in God.
- The most basic laws of science tell us that nothing ever comes from nothing (1st Law of Thermodynamics). Einstein made it clear that nothing can be destroyed; energy can turn into matter and matter into energy, but everything that is here has always been here. That begs the question, “Where did it all come from?” Scientists all agree that everything we see had to come from somewhere, but the only logical answer to that question is ‘God’. God, a supernatural deity not bound by the laws of physics, created all that we see and enjoy in this universe.
- God’s Word is also proof that God is. The Bible is a book that only God could write. It has prophecies that are fulfilled hundreds of years after they are spoken. It has remained unchanged by tradition or persecution for thousands of years. It makes statements about how our world works hundreds of years before scientists realized the concepts for themselves. The Bible is a book composed by over forty different writers over thousands of years, and yet it has no contradictions within it. The Bible could not have been written by anyone but Deity.
These are just three reasons to believe in God; there are many more that space prevents us from mentioning. We also recommend you go back and read through the posts in our EVIDENCES category. You will see that you aren’t the only one who has questions about God, and you will also see that there are answers to every question. We also recommend reading Case For A Creator by Lee Strobel and Has God Spoken? by A.O. Schnabel. Both books are well worth the read.
Why should I wait for sex?
Dear Just Askin’,
There are two ways to answer your question. One way to answer your question would be to list the thousands of statistics that describe how much healthier of a lifestyle monogamy is. We could explain the risks of promiscuity and the increased failure rate of relationships that pursue intimacy before marriage. There are studies far and wide that prove the healthiest, happiest, and most well-adjusted relationships are monogamous relationships that wait until marriage… but that isn’t the way we are going to answer your question because as compelling as secular studies are, they aren’t nearly as compelling as the Bible.
The other way to answer your question is to tell you that God says sex outside of marriage is a sin and that we should flee all fornication (1 Cor 6:18). God designed that level of intimacy for marriage only (Eph 5:31). Our Creator knows what is best for us, and His Bible says sex outside of marriage is a sin. That is why you should wait.